One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said "my son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:
"Which wolf wins?..." the old Cherokee simply replied, "the one that you feed."
Isn't that a powerful story?!
I keep referring back to this idea of the two wolves and wanted to share my thoughts on the impending holidays. This time of year can be stressful with getting people organized, dealing with family members and balancing your already hectic routine. Depending on which wolf you feed will determine how enjoyable your season will be.
One of the biggest ways we contribute to the ‘bad’ wolf around the holidays is guilt. We feel guilty about accepting a second piece of pie knowing that we could have stopped before the first one. Or we overspend on gifts putting ourselves in debt just so we don’t make anyone feel bad. Or we accept every invitation to every party and run ourselves ragged, eventually ending up with the flu.
However the guilt or envy or anger manifests in your ‘bad’ wolf know that you always have the option to flip the switch or feed the ‘good’ wolf. When you come from a place of love in everything you do, your perspective changes. Instead of accepting that second piece of pie, tune in to your body and honor yourself to not push beyond your limits. When buying a gift, tap into your love for that person and find something that they could really use and attach a simple handwritten note of thanks for all they do for you. And when you are exhausted and haven’t slept in days, politely refuse a dinner invitation and get some rest.
Feeding the evil wolf leads to short tempers, resentment and tummy aches. Feeding the good wolf leads to laughter, enjoyment and bear hugs. Enjoy the ride as they say and relish in this time you have with your friends and family.
There are many things that I am thankful for this year, especially those of you who support me and this blog.